I had never felt
like voicing about the bias in our society. But today I feel the urge. Not to
change the community overnight but just to make a sensible few understand and give a thought about this.
Many do not
know what they are pushed into, some try to understand what they are getting into
and very few actually know what they are jumping into.
But one
thing is common. They all know WHAT THEY ARE LEAVING BEHIND.
There are
two sides to the unfair practice. One is practical aspect and other being the emotional
aspect. Neither of these the Men experience.
You have
seed capital, you reinvest on it at every possible stage, you admire its growth
every term and when it is ready with returns someone takes it away for which you
actually finance. Even best of
financial experts can never explain the joy out of such an investment.
But a girl’s
parent can.
We have
heard or read enough on how the scene has changed today. That, girls are equally
or more educated and better employed. They are given best education and
have good health & sound mind to manage. What more does the boy’s family
need. But the bitter truth is the society still expects the girl’s side to spend
for the wedding in addition to giving cash and kind. These lines have been
spoken at different ways at different times by different people but they have
failed to create any impact.
What bothers
me more is the 26 years of life getting changed in just 26 days.
I never
needed a best friend because I could discuss and share anything and everything
with my mom. I never needed anyone for support because my father has always stood
by me at all times. I never missed out on any nuances of life because my
brother was always there for it. Can there be substitutes for them.?
People say the
most disturbing thought when you go to bed every night is whether you will wake
up the next day. I have never experienced it. So, to me the fact that you would
no longer belong to this place you live today is the most disturbing. Can one
sleep while feeling lost.?
The first thing I would want to avoid is staying at other’s place and the last thing that I would do is use their restroom. Overnight you are made to walk into someplace that you havent even seen before and everybody around tells this is your home. Can the acceptance happen overnight.?
One can always take that extra liberty at home. No matter what happens outside you know there is a place one can ventilate, relax, ease out the strain as there is a family to understand and support. Can this happen when the so called home itself is stressful.?
Despite being the eldest I have been equally pampered as my younger one. All my needs have been taken care of. I have been given more than what I needed. Can these continue longer.?
The answer to these and many other questions seem to be the same. "Time is Changing"
I do not
know about the life ahead but I know it needs immense strength to let go of a
home that has been everything for years. Whatever I am today is because of my family
and the fact I will have to leave them haunts me. In the next 26 days I have to leave everything that has been with me for 26 years.
I cease to
be my father’s princess, my mother’s child and my sibling’s companion.
The thought
itself is terrible let alone experiencing it. I solicit comfort from the fact
that Womanhood over generations has been handling it. And, I derive strength
from the fact that, I am my Mom’s kid and when she has sailed through this I should be able to handle
it..!
