Tuesday, 2 October 2012

26 Years Vs. 26 Days

I had never felt like voicing about the bias in our society. But today I feel the urge. Not to change the community overnight but just to make a sensible few understand and give a thought about this.

Many do not know what they are pushed into, some try to understand what they are getting into and very few actually know what they are jumping into.
But one thing is common. They all know WHAT THEY ARE LEAVING BEHIND.

There are two sides to the unfair practice. One is practical aspect and other being the emotional aspect. Neither of these the Men experience. 

You have seed capital, you reinvest on it at every possible stage, you admire its growth every term and when it is ready with returns someone takes it away for which you actually finance. Even best of financial experts can never explain the joy out of such an investment.
But a girl’s parent can.

We have heard or read enough on how the scene has changed today. That, girls are equally or more educated and better employed. They are given best education and have good health & sound mind to manage. What more does the boy’s family need. But the bitter truth is the society still expects the girl’s side to spend for the wedding in addition to giving cash and kind. These lines have been spoken at different ways at different times by different people but they have failed to create any impact.

What bothers me more is the 26 years of life getting changed in just 26 days.
I never needed a best friend because I could discuss and share anything and everything with my mom. I never needed anyone for support because my father has always stood by me at all times. I never missed out on any nuances of life because my brother was always there for it. Can there be substitutes for them.?

People say the most disturbing thought when you go to bed every night is whether you will wake up the next day. I have never experienced it. So, to me the fact that you would no longer belong to this place you live today is the most disturbing. Can one sleep while feeling lost.?

The first thing I would want to avoid is staying at other’s place and the last thing that I would do is use their restroom. Overnight you are made to walk into someplace that you havent even seen before and everybody around tells this is your home. Can the acceptance happen overnight.?

One can always take that extra liberty at home. No matter what happens outside you know there is a place one can ventilate, relax, ease out the strain as there is a family to understand and support. Can this happen when the so called home itself is stressful.?

Despite being the eldest I have been equally pampered as my younger one. All my needs have been taken care of. I have been given more than what I needed. Can these continue longer.?

The answer to these and many other questions seem to be the same. "Time is Changing"

I do not know about the life ahead but I know it needs immense strength to let go of a home that has been everything for years. Whatever I am today is because of my family and the fact I will have to leave them haunts me. In the next 26 days I have to leave everything that has been with me for 26 years.

I cease to be my father’s princess, my mother’s child and my sibling’s companion.

The thought itself is terrible let alone experiencing it. I solicit comfort from the fact that Womanhood over generations has been handling it. And, I derive strength from the fact that, I am my Mom’s kid and when she has sailed through this I should be able to handle it..!


  1. Awesome work!! :)
    Left me speechless!!

  2. I agree too sweetie! :)
    Change is inevitable. Let's look at the other side. Men have to live their whole life in a routine and v r the change agents in their lives! Let's do rock & roll then!

  3. Good luck with the change! :P

  4. well written n expressed!!
    u will continue to be ur father's princess , mother's child but also will be a queen ruling Sriram's heart !! :)

  5. Hey..the last comment by "unknown" was exactly my thoughts too. Very profound. A balanced take at what a bride's side faces before and after a wedding. Wish you great luck with everything.